The simplest expression of whole-person character strength. Being real means all of your parts are in congruence with the others, so you are living in reality to the greatest degree possible while also being human. We are beings that are sometimes conscious and sometimes unconscious by nature. We could not possibly be conscious of everything, all the time, or our minds would explode in overwhelm. The human mind at the center of all of our parts must record experiences and consequences in subconscious long-term memory that we can draw upon later, but not always immediately and not always accurately.
Our DNA has wired our brains for patterns that have helped many ancestors before us survive an often unfriendly world. That unimaginably complex system is also wired up to help us survive the first systems we encounter, our family of origin. This design worked beautifully a hundred years ago when our entire lives were lived in one geographic area, with the same people, and the same systemic norms.
But today, in the age of technology, we are exposed to constant change by exponentially numerous variables and thus anxiety is at an all time high. Our best hope for thriving in such complex times is to focus inward to anchor our inner world with strength of character in all four aspects of whole-self; mind, body, heart and spirit. Only then can we show up being our most authentic self and complete our most important work. This requires checking into reality with awareness and commit to mindful practices that strengthen us from the inside-out. Then we can operate, not from fear, but from inner strength and answer the most important existential questions that lead to ultimate fulfillment and a life well lived.